Beliefs

I was just going through my old conversation logs and this bit caught my attention.

I had this conversation with a friend quite some time back.

Context: We were discussing inter-religion marriages and pros and cons of the same, especially pertaining to the point if it was worth hurting your parents’ feeling for a man/woman you met a while ago.

What my friend explained made a lot of sense.
Find below excerpts from the conversation for the benefit of my readers.

“Well to put it in a nutshell, I believe that there is always, almost certainly one bitter pill that goes with any decision... Somebody has to swallow it. Could be anybody....but somebody has to…

When one is making a decision, he/she must understand who in the circumstances would eventually have to swallow that bitter pill... Most people tend to pretend as martyrs and decide to swallow the pill themselves, but, these pills don’t go down the throats of the decision makers easily...

In other words, the person concerned would tend to have a feeling of regret and defeat in his heart for a very long time... When it comes to asking your parents to pop that pill, we must remember a few things:

· They would initially make more noise than anyone else… INITIALLY
· They would create situations where the decision maker would tend to become a martyr
· But all said and done, parents value the happiness of their children much more than anything else
· They know that in this generation, it is very unlikely that their son and daughter-in-law would stay in their house… So subsequent interactions would be more over telephone and the sorts...
· And finally, no person who is true to himself will be able to truly take care of his parents if he is himself not happy in life... To be a good son, a good parent, it is important that there are NO regrets in life....and that the person is happy, confident with the choice he made...

In conclusion, the first six months may not be easy... but eventually all parents see the happiness in their children and feel good. Six months is too small a period of time when it comes to a decision to be made for life.”

On re-reading this entire discourse, it actually did sound quite credible. Plausible argument may be, but no harm! So, all you readers who are in such a dilemma, think no-more! I will direct you to this preacher friend of mine. Haha!!

-Ships